Here’s the situation: You’re dating somebody that you really, really like. In fact, you just might love them. But there’s a problem: They’ve got history, and it’s eating you alive. আপনার স্ত্রীর সাথে যদি এভাবে ঘুমান তাহলে এই ভয়ংকর পরিণতি আপনারও হতে পারে ! বিস্তারিত দেখুন As a who is waiting till marriage, dealing with a partner’s past is one of the greatest and most painful challenges you’ll face in romantic relationships.
Sometimes the pain is immediate: You’ve been in love with your partner for a while, and then one day you discover the sordid details of their sexual past and it wrecks you.
Sometimes it creeps up on you: You’ve known about their history from the beginning, but it didn’t really bother you until now. And now all of a sudden, it’s like you can’t stop thinking about it and torturing yourself with mental pictures. This has gone from a minor annoyance to a major and central problem in your relationship.
You’re being assaulted by a swarm of horrible feelings, and I know they all feel jumbled together, but it’s important to pull them apart and give them names. The more you can identify and understand the nature of your own feelings, the easier it will be for you to process and act on them in a healthy way.
How to get over it
The important thing to remember here is that their choices probably weren’t wrong, bad, evil, or immoral; they were probably just different from the ones you made. Even if there are universally bad deeds in their past, it will be more useful for you to view their past decisions as differences rather than as indiscretions.
If you look at their past choices as errors, then it becomes a matter of damnation or forgiveness. But by seeing their choices for what they are (differences between you and them), you can use the knowledge to adjust your understanding of your partner.